He is the worst thing that has happened to our family.Looking back, we wish we had shipped her off somewhere when she was 17. We didn’t know what a serious problem this was back then.He has told her if they get married, we are not invited!He has also told us there is no way to reconcile things until after they’re married — and that will take at least a couple of years.She cannot cope with the thought of him with another girl. This makes the situation more difficult: as bizarre as it sounds, the loser has parented your daughter for the past six years.All of the various “stages” teens and young adults pass though were controlled by the Loser boyfriend.We have offered to send her to Europe, on a semester abroad, or anywhere she’d like to go, but she can’t leave this loser.She came close to leaving him a couple of times, but he tells her he will be gone when she comes back, and she backs down. We can’t imagine that she will marry him, but she is making no effort to get away from him. Heart-broken By my calculations, she began her relationship with the Loser at about 16 years of age.
Now, he has made her choose between her loving, close family and him.
They are engaged, and because we asked him to get a job (he hasn’t worked or gone to school for months and months), he refuses to come to our home or speak to us.